FALLS CHURCH, Virginia --
For many, the post-holiday season is a challenging, emotional time. Scrolling through social media posts about the perfect gift or holiday celebration may intensify negative feelings, especially for those struggling with depression, loss, or loneliness.
It’s true that social media can help connect and reconnect people; however, it may increase feelings of isolation or remind people of what they don’t have.
Because all seems merry and bright on social media, we may be tempted to compare ourselves (unfavorably) with those we perceive have more accomplishments, make more money, have nicer belongings, or boast more social media followers. When you find yourself envious of others, and feel jealous or inferior, you are most likely experiencing a negative social comparison.
Researchers discovered that social networking sites such as Facebook have psychological benefits like connection, communication and a sense of belonging. However, several studies indicate that prolonged use of the Internet might be associated with signs and symptoms of depression and low self-esteem and loneliness.
So, what’s a poor social media user to do? There are ways to navigate tricky post-holiday times. The key is awareness.
As mentioned earlier, there are circumstances when social media can help with the blues. However, for those who are vulnerable to negative social comparison, they should take steps to protect themselves. Here are a few recommendations:
Notice when exposure to others’ happiness brings you down. Use the free T2 Mood Tracker mobile app (Android, iOS) to see if your moods change with certain activities (such as using social media).
Limit social media use if you see that it affects your mood. Take a break; you’ll have plenty of time to catch up.
Talk with a trusted friend about your feelings. Reality checks with peers about their experiences over the holidays can also help; it’s likely that others had similar challenges.
Manage stress by getting enough sleep and exercise. Also, watch what you eat and how much you drink – a bad diet and too much alcohol can negatively affect your mood.
Manage your expectations. During the holidays, you saw lots of advertising and other media that implied all holiday moments should be glorious and beautiful. Remind yourself that these ads are elaborate productions and often don’t reflect reality. It’s OK if your events didn’t mimic them.
Plan a pleasant activity that is do-able. Walk on a trail, take a bubble bath or visit with a friend. After you return to social media, you may decide to post photos from your activity. If you need suggestions, try the free Positive Activity Jackpot mobile app for Android at https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=t2.paj&hl=en.